Tongue-Turning The Other Cheek

Unless I am a complete moron, I contend that domestic violence is not just on the aggressors, it is on us all.

In the recent revolt against this vice, our virtual activists have taken to social media to condemn the wife beaters, and sadly in our banana republic, the vice versa also. According to yours truly, writer extraordinaire, this whole resurgence of activism is a huge load of bullshit.

Ironically, the aggressors have been made scape-goats and although I would not wish that the low-lives with access to free wi-fi cut them some slack, they are not solely to blame. Infact our social compass is so broken that it actually points right. In other words, the moral high-ground we have taken on the issue has actually jeopardized our core mission, to stop the violence.

I bet you are reading this with the confusion of a homeless person on house arrest.....let me elaborate. Media outrage should be geared towards condemning these neolithic nearndathals and that is quite in order. However, it would be myopic to think that it is enough.

The World Health Organisation (WHO)’s latest report on Violence Against Women that was released in June 2013 indicated that in some
regions of the world, over 35% of women suffer from partner violence. With these staggering numbers, it is a very real possibility that every
one of us knows a woman is facing (or has faced) domestic violence.

We have become reactive instead of proactive in our fight against this domestic violence. This has not only given our antagonists the leeway to go on their hit sprees but also left our dear activists looking like choir boys in an opera.

Since crying over spilt milk seems to be the order of the day these days, my heart bleeds for the cuts and bruises inflicted on our mothers, sisters and neighbours whom we do not even lift a finger to help but running our mouths after they are mauled becomes as easy as a drunken college girl.

It all starts with the classic boy loves girl story. Boy then habitually beats the senses out of girl and friends tell the girl to be resilient because love is supposed to conquer all. However, love does not conquer blows, only self defence classes and instincts to escape can do that. Long gone are the days when turning the other cheek was a noble act by a submissive partner. Unfortunately for the hopeless romantics, love is not always the answer, sometimes it is rhetorically the question like.....why love?

To give a voice to the voiceless victims, we must be ready to stand up to the perpetrators of domestic violence. The main problem with victims of violent homes is that people who should protect them are mpnkeys in watch eating the proverbial popcorns whilst wearing their sad faces. They only come out of their cowardly shells for disaster management, which is criticizing the antagonists thinking it makes up for their timidity. Well, hypocrites...... if the shoe fits...

It beats me that after NFL star Ray Rice floored his girlfriend in the elevator, they got married just one month after. I could go on and on about how his girlfriend had no dignity and acted primitively by marrying a wolf in wolves' clothing, but that would be gravely stupid. She is just one example in the developed states. Two more players in the NFL have been associated with this vice and I doubt that is the last we are hearing of it.

Subsequently, while I wouldn't hold my breath on the numbers of illitetate or otherwise violated women in our banana republics dwindling, I am skeptical of the media attraction they generate to air their grievances. Most of these physical and sexual violence acts are rarely caught on tape and therefore, most of these acts go unpunished.

It is the 21st century and as such, we patriachs are obliged to teach women how to stand up for themselves by standing up for them in the face of tumult. As absurd as it sounds, we need to teach women to be men and if the best we can do is condemn the vicious acts of the transgressors then the best they can do is to take the beatings for purposes of mantaining our retrogressive campaigns. Our legislators would match rather discuss how the mongrels should be allowed to marry more than one wife in order to sharpen their boxing skills than tackle the trivial conundrum that is domestic violence. What a shame....shame!

We must be our sisters' keepers and protect them like a lion does its pride. Forget the transgressors, our duty is to protect the victims rather than punish the violent actions. If our priorities are not in order, we are better off riding off into the sunset with our exhibitionism oblivious of everyone else to live happily ever after.

Every woman is a queen and whatever happens to a queen is down to all her subjects, it is on us all....See, I am not a complete moron.